Why is it different?Why people are reluctant to accept this intercultural marriage?Why there are so many barrier?All of this question always been asked when this issue arise. First of all, it is because of the differences that occurs in both culture. What make it different is the couple need to learn something new in their partner's culture. They have to understand and accept the cultural differences in order to make their relationship works. Besides that,its the prejudice they have to endure.Although both of their partner are open minded and okay with the marriage, but the social attitude towards this marriage is dissimilar. The society might found that this marriage cannot be last forever because of the differences. They hardly can accept it. Moreover, this marriage is different from the normal marriage because the couple need decide which country they want to live. For example if the couple married with the people that came from other country, they have to willingly ready to migrate. In addition the social norms is vary among others. Each represents the gender roles, behavior and etc. People with same background, culture are easy to apprehend and sometimes share the identical social norms. The ratio to face any problem is not big enough compare to those who did not have the same social norms. Enough from me. Its your time. Let me hear it from you. ;)
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why would it be different?
when we talk about multicultural marriage, we imagine people of different colours getting together, from different countries or regions, and from different religions.
hmm... it's different because the couples' cultures are different. This is quite hard to explain now that I come to think of it. We could be in a same race but still have different cultures right? For example, the Kelantan Malay and the Negri Sembilan Malay, differentiated by geography, have different cultures, habitual of the communities and so on. They're different even though they all live here in Malaysia.
How are they different? Like in Negri Sembilan, there is this law called "Adat Perpatih" (though nowadays it isn't that strict), where the family properties will be inherited by the youngest daughter of the family. On the contrary, in Kelantan and most other states, the properties will go to the eldest son. So obviously there is some clashes there...
However, they have the same race and religions. Now will this marriage between a Kelantanese Malay man and a Negri Sembilan Malay woman be considered as multicultural?? (this example is random, not referring to any real characters ya.. hehe)
Hmm... it some sense they have different culture, but in some sense, they have the same race (Malay) and live by the same religion, and in the same country. I think what makes major difference is when they are raising a child. then they will be apparent because the child will learn two languages (each from parents) and the couples will face some dilemma, not to mention pressure from both sides of the families.
Sorry, but I dislike the way you use the word "race". I look prettty similar to Boris Becker, the German tennis-player. He had a child with Ermakowa, and the child looks so similar to the father.
Imagine this: I would have a child with my Malay wife and decide to raise it in Malaysia. A child like this would look very very different from all other Malay people, but it would be Malay! It is not the look, it i not the colour of the hair or skin: it is the inside.
The word "race" describes the outside only, and it is not appropriate for a human being. I is the culture, which shapes the individual, not the appearence!
My christian family did not have major objections against my Muslim wife, and the same did my wife`s family. For both families it was most important to have a strong belief in God and have morals. I am thankfull for all of them.
Christopher
Okay, though we deny it, it's still used.. We still use the word 'race'.
What makes it different now is........... The term is rather hard to use nowadays because people look pass all that, including me. We're able to live in peace only because we try to cope with people from all walks of life as best as we could, right. But I feel that perhaps I should do further research before putting out any statement coz I do realize that I'm not in your shoes.
However, religion is not skin deep. We all know that but we don't realize how deep it is and how prior it is. Not everyone sees it.
Mh, how to answer to this? I personally regard Malaysia as a very intercultural country, and I appreciate highly, how Malaysians get along so well with all the different cultures in your country. It is not always easy, but in general you do so well, especially the young generations.
So I think you have much more intercultural abilities than me, who has to learn it.
It is only, that after WW2 we are pretty sensitive about the word "race". Hitler had some very stupid ideas about "race", so my country did a big big mistake in history, and we still have to apologise for that. We Germans were similar to the Japanese in WW2, and now we still feel very ashamed about this - even me, who was born long after the war. When I am travelling in Europe, I feel a lot of anger, just because I am German.
Are you still angry at the Japanese culture? Do you feel reminded of the WW2 when you see a Japanese?
As we see here, not only the religion, but also the history of the fatherland (or motherland?) influences the individual.
Peace,
Christopher
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